July 6, 2014

Cycle 5

 



 

Hello Everyone, and Welcome Back.  Thank you all for reaching out in whatever way you have this week.  I appreciate people who call or text or email, or post on Facebook.  I always smile when I get a fun or inspiring message, because it shows someone is thinking of me, and wishes me well.

 

The blog has been viewed almost 7,000 times.  I have received emails from people letting me know they read it and how it is inspiring and hopeful.  What's more, is I have been contacted by friends who know people who have been recently diagnosed, and the blog offers one more resource for people with questions.  My hope is you share this blog and my email address with your friends and family.  Breast cancer in many forms, is more prevalent than anyone ever imagined.  And its very scary when it happens to someone you know or love.  What I have gained is knowledge about the effects of all types of cancer, including leukemia, lymphoma, colon, and ovarian, among others.  Please allow me to be a resource for others, as I have been fortunate to recieve help from others during my journey.

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Recently, I spoke/texted with a friend who has an older friend who is diagnosed and is faced with choices about chemotherapy and surgery.  I spoke with a survivor whose last chemo was a year ago.  I get calls from survivors of over 10 or 20 years.  Being diagnosed with breast cancer at 37 is the road I have to follow, and I appreciate anyone who is joining me with support and strength.  Its not just about those afflicted with the disease.  Its also about those who care for people with cancer.

 

However you deal with the knowledge of cancer is how you deal with it.  Its about being sad or angry, or confused or lost.  Some people handle the news and become dependable and strong.  Some people show a side of themselves that is incredibly supportive, almost surprisingly so. Conversations happen that reveal the incredible heart within people you never thought to consider.  Some express feelings of sympathy, but are unable to do anything more because its not affecting them directly, or they are having trouble understanding all of the difficult emotions.  It is reality, and that happens, and I rely on those who have approached me with love and strength.  I help those who need a better understanding of the disease, because they ask.  But, I understand, how a withdrawal may be because of fear or lack of interest.  Self defense mechanisms come in many forms, including denial.  If that is happening to someone you know, I hope they do not offend you as they try to figure out their feelings.  I recognize crisis and stress affects people differently.  I accept people for who they are and do not ask them for any more than what they are capable of.    

 

You do what you can.  I will do what I can, until I cannot.

 

I am reminded every minute of every day of my battle.  Every hour that it hurts, every time I struggle with something physical, like take a walk or lift something. This isn't getting any easier, and some days are harder than others.  I am in this role I have been charged with, and I am glad every day I asked for help from my friends and my community. 

 

Thank you for taking the time to read and share the blog. 

 

Andrea